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Please note: Maya's opinions are not always those of the management!

Ask Maya for the 2nd week of January, 2004
Ask Maya for the 5th week of December, 2003/1st week of January, 2004
Ask Maya for the 3rd and 4th weeks of December, 2003
Ask Maya for the 1st and 2nd weeks of December, 2003
Ask Maya for the 4th week of November, 2003
Ask Maya for the 2nd and 3rd weeks of November, 2003
Ask Maya for the 1st week of November, 2003
Ask Maya for the 5th week of October, 2003
Ask Maya for the 2nd, 3rd and 4th weeks of October, 2003
Ask Maya for the 5th week of September/1st week of October, 2003

More "Ask Maya" archives on pages 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10

Ask Maya for the 2nd week of January, 2004:

Dear Maya --

normally i am not a spiteful person myself, and i have been through a lot of pretty grisly things and stayed loving. but this weekend something happened and i got so upset i wanted some really nasty revenge! so your column about victimization and justice and healing was great timing for me. and you are absolutely right that the vengeful feeling is pretty toxic and unpleasant. nevertheless part of me is starting to be convinced that some people will never learn unless given some pretty forceful messages, delivered in great win-lose firmness. this is not a point of view i am used to having! but it's sort of like the mother bear syndrome (i'm reading a book about bears-- i love it!!!) where mamma will strike if she has to, esp if she has cubs, even though she doesn't generally like to do it.

the one good thing about my newfound bloodcurdling impulses is that at least now i'm valuing myself enough to not want to be a doormat and to want to defend myself, and to sometimes put that high enough on my priorities to do it even if someone else takes a fall as a result, depending on the situation.

that doesn't change the truth of all the other stuff you say about escalation and non-enmeshment and self-healing and all that. and even when they are met with consequences, a lot of pple don't learn anyway. so it's not even all that effective in terms of teaching. but i still think a lot about "loving firmness" and how to not be laissez-faire in the face of evil behavior, and not allow victimization. non-violent resistance is great, but sometimes i just want to say no and be done with it and not have to waste my time on someone else's issues. not very loving, but then, i can only pay attention to so many things at once and sometimes i want to choose the more receptive and respectful folks to spread my love around with.

do you think there is ever a place for punishment, or do you think it's best in all situations to be self-protective but laissez-faire about others?

mad as hell and still mulling,

- jodi

Dear Jodi,

Thanks for writing. How are you? I guess you are mad. By the way, I spoke to [your cat] Max a bit. She seems nice enough, but I don't really get along with other cats. I meant to spend all my life with humans and I was pretty much raised by them more than cats, so that's where my focus is.

Anyway, I understand your questions. Let me try to make things clearer for you. First of all, a healthy sense of self-value and respect are always top on my list of things you should cultivate. Make no mistake here, I was not telling Dee-Dee to slink off (although that is necessary in some cases, for self-protection). Part of taking care of yourself is standing up for yourself when you need to, and that's why I mentioned that I clearly have no objections to bopping someone who offends or attacks me! I always fimly convey "NO" when I don't want to be treated in some way, so clearly that even the humans who are kind of stupid and/or don't communicate with animals can see it. So, you are right on in taking care of yourself by asserting your values, your personal space, and your right to be treated well in several ways -- whether it be defending yourself physically, saying no or walking away.

What I said about non-escalation, by the way, is totally a judgement call. You have to assess the situation and know your weaknesses and strengths (which is part of knowing and loving yourself). For example, I defend myself against the other cats in my house, and my people, if necessary, because I know we all live together, have various balanced relationships and will not go crazy and go for the kill (although sometimes I wish -- ha ha HA!). If a new animal came into my territory of course I would defend myself as necessary if I had to, but if it proved that they WERE crazy, or significantly more violent, faster or bigger than me, I'd assess the situation and appear submissive or run away and hide -- whatever it takes to go on living another day, you know?

So, in your situation, you take account of things -- what the mean person is like, what they did, how you are involved, the different things you could do about it and how that would affect how you feel and your safety in the long run, and then act as you feel is right and appropriate. I can't make the call for you as to whether action would nip things in the bud or lead to a drawn-out series of confrontations, but that's something maybe you can work out if you think on it and meditate. We all get swept up in our feelings in the moment - I know I do! - and sometimes we act on them. But, in the long term, to stay in the game and lead a life you can be safe in and happy with, you've gotta THINK about your options and what to do next. N'est-ce-pas?

Finally, let's talk about punishment. This is less common in the non-human world, although it does happen. Among animals that must be in groups to survive, there are personal fights and squabbles, but there are times a group will unite against one of them. I'm not talking about when a new male comes in town and takes over a herd of females -- that's more about practicality and survival of the fittest. I'm talking about when an animal is just plain mean and offensive to the others, and finally they scare him away with attacks and exclude him from the group. And yes, some animals do get dictators in their ranks - - animals who are the toughest and meanest and thus end up in charge -- but eventually those dictators get older and weaker, and then it's goodbye, Charlie.

So, yes, punishment of that sort is rare, and it is generally motivated by the self-interest of the individuals in the group for their and the community's well-being, but it does happen in the non-human animal world. My problem with human resolution of such stuff is that so often it is about petty things and it escalates. You humans with your guns and money and lawsuits will kill each other all the time over things that aren't necessary for survival. Yes, animals kill sometimes over territory or food, but not as often. And, in our case, it's on a very basic survival level. Humans often hurt each other for what we would deem luxuries, and we don't understand it. Shun your serious offenders from society, sure, but enough with hurting people who were not even involved in the first place. Those are my thoughts, anyway.

So... um, I got a little side-tracked there, but I think you know what I'm saying. My answer to your question is: yes, I believe in punishment in certain situations, and also in doing it as a community for the safety of the group, rather than just for yourself (I'd certainly try to defend my humans against interlopers I could handle, if it came down to it). But, try not to be too liberal with it, and remember that whatever you do to someone else reflects back on you, and stays in your thoughts forever, on some level. With that in mind, weigh your options carefully and come up with your best decision. I have faith in you that you are a good person (and less likely to bop someone than I am!), so you will figure out a course of action that will make you feel better but also make you feel you are doing the right thing in the long run.

Hope this helps, and a kitty purring-smile at both Max and you,

- Maya the Cat, Unequivocal, and Mostly Just

Ask Maya for the 5th week of December, 2003/1st week of January, 2004:

Dear friends, worshippers and others,

First of all, if you were away for the "holidays" like my moms were, I hope you gave your animals extra love when you got back. Being without our human companions can be stressful (especially when we have to deal with two other cats who are very SNEAKY on our own)!

Secondly, I send you all a blessing. I'm just nice that way, you know. I hope you have a good "new year", although, as my mom says, there's no use in saving your recollections and resolutions for one time of the year - you can do it any time, and any day can be the start of a "new year" for you!

OK, now the last part. My moms have been very depressed since the got back and found one of their turtle friends had passed away while they were gone. They are taking some blame on themselves, but mostly they are doing okay, with some of the appropriate mourning. I didn't know the turtle well, but he seemed like a pretty wise fella, and he never caused me any trouble. I respected him, as far as those things go. Anyway, Momma G asked if she might dedicate this column to him, and see if he had any thoughts to pass on about passing over. She thought it might help her to feel better, and also for other people to see that spirit lives on after our bodies surrender (not that I haven't TOLD HER THAT 5,000 times, but sometimes you just gotta keep living through it, you know?). Anyway, I love my moms, so here you go. The rest of this column is dedicated to and done by Trogdor the former-turtle. I know he is fine, but see for yourselves.

Love and Compassionate, if Practical, Purrings,

- Maya the Cat

Hello, peoples! I am Trogdor, as my people called me, and I am a turtle-form spirit. I once was a turtle, but now I'm not. I hope that makes sense.

Moms, you didn't do anything wrong for me, you did the best you could. It was just my time to return to spirit. This is the message I'd like to share with everyone else. Sometimes humans don't see that we're sick, or can't help us if we are. That doesn't mean we don't know we are loved, and love you in return. Passing, for me, was painless. We animals often go out of our bodies and don't feel it near the end. So don't mourn for us too much. We are happy here, where we are in the spirit!

I had a good life, though a short one. It doesn't really matter, because you get as many lives as you want and you need. My purpose was to enjoy myself and to spread joy around. I am very good at it! I have a great deal of enthusiasm. And why not? There's lots to be excited about!

I met my human friends when I was very little. They thought it was quite by accident, but nothing ever is, you know. We got along together really great, almost from the start. They took good care of me, even though I always wished I could be in a pond, instead. Sometimes I didn't feel well, but mostly I had fun exploring. It was fun learning how to swim really fast and well and what things you could and couldn't eat, too. I watched my friends, sometimes, and spoke to them, and sometimes they watched me. I spoke to one of the cats, sometimes, but I think I made him hungry! That makes me laugh - he never could get to me!

I also had a turtle-friend, Marzipan, but I am talking to her separately. She knows I have passed and I am helping her not to be lonely. She also has lessons to learn of her own, from all of this.

In the end, I did my duty, which was to teach them about turtle love and how we are great even though we come in small packages and are very different from you mammals, in some ways. One way we are not different, though, is that we can love and find joy in things. You think reptiles are cold and calculating? Spend some time with one! We may communicate differently than you do, or have different needs, but we are definitely "people", too, with loves and fears and personalities. Also, some of us are really fine swimmers, if I may say so myself!

I also had a lot of fun for myself, but it was time to go. I really wanted to be in a bigger space, after all, although I don't mind that they did what they could and had me in that tank-place. They meant well. I like being in spirit, where I am big and have plenty of room to soar and swim and take up space and move. I may come back as something someday that is bigger and free, like a sea-turtle, or a whale, or something! But it was fun to be with people, and learn about them, and teach them about me. I know they know I love them, even where I am.

And there's one thing I want them to know about me, too. I am not a special turtle. I mean, I am in that I am myself, unique, BUT, all animals can love and bring their special spirits and gifts to your lives, and all of them are there for a reason, just as you are in their lives for a reason, too. So, when you feel you "can't replace" one of us who's moved on, that's true, but it's also true that if you are open to love you can experience so much more with all the other beings that come your way, don't you see? So, mourn us and miss the loss of our physical space-holders if you must, but don't forget that in spirit we still love you, and have much to learn and teach, both with you and others, and that all spirits, whether they manifest themselves in bodies or not, do, too.

There, I think I said it. I send you great love, joy and happiness, warmth and swimming oceans from the other side. I wish you all realize yourselves, and learn and wish what it is to learn and wish for each of you. And if you see a little turtle, or any other tiny or baby beast, remember that great things come in little packages, too, not just big ones.

Love to all of you and even to Maya, even though I am horning in on her territory - ha! I know she knows that truth can come from all angles, and it doesn't matter so much who says it, as that it is said.

Namaste from the top of the world,

- Trogdor, the great love former-turtle spirit

Ask Maya for the 3rd and 4th weeks of December, 2003:

Dear Friends, Family and Worshippers,

Okay, so after my wonderful "Christmas list" from last week (not that I celebrate that kind of thing... think of it as a list of things I want), Mom says there have been several requests to see what the other animals in our family (yes, I consider them family -- that doesn't mean I have to like them!) want for the holidays, too.

Sigh. Feh.

But, being Great of Heart (and also having to bow to my Mom's wishes, seeing as only she can type and she said it would be "good publicity and make [me] seem generous"), I have decided that this will be allowed.

This once. Don't get used to it.

OK, happy holidays of whatever kind, y'all, and here are the other's wish lists...

- Ms. Maya, Queen Ruler Cat

Maurice:

1. Happy Christmas! Love to everyone! I wish for more love and more petting, and for everyone to feel my purrs and me to get to meet them.

2. I would like Quan Yin to be able to come into the bed with me, like she used to. [Note from GK: This is something we are negotiating, following a bad bout of bed-wetting by Ms. QY.]

3. More wet food! More treats!

4. More string play!

5. More petting and snuggling WITHOUT Maya! Have I mentioned that?

6. Menthol goodness! [Note: Maurice likes to lick menthol lip balm, lotion, Ben Gay, etc. - GK]

7. For my Moms to feel loved and confident and for us all to take care of each other when we are scared (we already do, but I want to be sure of it).

8. No thunder.

9. More admirers!

10. I would like Quan Yin to let me mate with her. [Nice try, buddy. -- GK]

11. A little bit of fish, even if it isn't good for me.

12. That's all, just good. I love you! Also, no claw clipping or dangling. I don't like that. But OK, everything else.

Happy holidays that you celebrate and don't forget your cats!

Lovey-love slinky love-love,

- Maurice

Quan Yin:

Hello? You are speaking to me? What is Christmas?

I don't know much about holidays. I am sad lately. I would like to not be sad. I would like to be able to go under the bed again and get more peace and quiet. I would like to be able to go on the bed again with Maurice. I am scared of the Moms sometimes, though I like to be petted. I like my chair a lot, too.

Wet food is always good, so more of that, please. I like the loving- talk, so more of that would be good, thank you.

I would like my litter to be cleaner. Please make it cleaner! I would like my feet to not be sore. I would like a big sandbox or garden all to myself to pee in. I would like to see birds close to me.

I would like to see the black cat spirits dancing under the bed more often.

I would like the light not to be turned on when I am sleeping!

I would like to understand things, and I would like to be less afraid more often and be with other cats who were nice, like Maurice is, only maybe not so aggressive.

Or maybe so.

I would like to thank the world for Maurice who is my only friend I really trust in the physical world and the bestest one, at that. I would like to thank my Mommy for trying to understand me and I try to understand her. I am happy when we are understanding.

I would like to thank the warm for being warm and the dark and sunlight. I am really not that sad now. I am understanding.

Mom says they will be going away for a few days for this Christmas thing. I will like the peace and quiet but not the Maya running loose or the too-quiet or the strange lady showing up. Sitll, I hope they have a good Christmas, if it is a family thing.

I think I am learning stuff. Thank you for asking about what I'd like for Christmas, friends. I never heard of it, such a thing. I want to send you my love and understanding and maybe we will understand each other some day, too. You make me purr.

Love,

- Quan Yin

Trogdor:

Ah, yes. I understand this Christmas thing as something you humans celebrate. I was a human once, myself, you know. Fun!

I would like more different foods and more space to swim in. Ideally, I'd like to be in a pond, but we have more negotiation to do about it. I understand that they [the humans] are doing their best. I'd like to have fun and bask a lot, and entreat others to have fun with me and do the same. I'd like to have some flies or other winged bug-things in here. And I'd like more communication with you beings, because this is a fun thing to do and I have lots of knowledge! I am a very interesting being, and I have a lot of interest in life. Also, I'd like some dirt, sometime, but we are talking about that, too.

Have a Merry Christmas and save some tidbits for me!

Peace and love,

- Trogdor the Something-Turtle

Marzipan:

Thank you for asking, but I don't really want to talk right now. I'd like to be left alone, thank you.

- Marzipan, quite nervous

P.S. Marzipan was feeling much more sociable later, so I asked her if she wanted to add anything to her list, and she said "peace all over the world."

Happy Holidays to all!

- GK

Ask Maya for the 1st and 2nd weeks of December, 2003:

Dear Friends, Family and Worshippers,

Hello. My mother decided I should get started on a Christmas list. Not that I celebrate Christmas as you have it, or even that my mothers will be here, as they will be LEAVING ME to visit other relatives at that time (feh!). But, as she explained it, she thought it would make a nice column for me to express myself and talk about some of the things I'd like to have right now, this time of year.

Hmm & so many things & let's see &

1. Besides the obvious ruling of the world (heh) the number one thing would be basically for everyone to treat each other better. Believe it or not, this thought is actually selfish. See, if everyone treated everyone better, we (meaning animals human and otherwise) could solve problems of who should live where and how much there is to eat and how to take care of everyone. This would mean less starvation, fear, and so on. Which might mean that the other cats in my house could have different homes and I could be the sole cat resident of my domain. Oh sure, Mom says I just say that, and would be lonely without them around the house when she and Red-Mom are gone. Trust me. If we didn't have to take them in because they needed homes, I'd not have allowed it. So, if everyone would take better care of each other, not only would we have a better world, etc., but less homelessness and over-population, so I could be an only cat. Two birds: one stone, so to speak. I like it: we all win.

2. Okay, another thing is more catnip. Red-Mom says she is allergic to it, but I doubt it. For someone with so many admirers, I rarely see a scrap of it in the house. What's a little harmless amusement with a plant? Even when I got a package of it FRESH, sent by someone who likes me, my moms hid it somewhere. What the &??! Now tell me that's right - I dare ya! Sheesh.

3. More Red Dot time. You know, the laser pointer? Break it out.

4. More respect for cats. Of course. Especially me.

5. My very own water cups to knock down. Hey, my people have glasses of fresh water they can carry around and do whatever they want with all the time, why not me? I don't like drinking out of a shared dish, and those humans rarely hop to it fast enough when I want to drink from the faucet. And so I spill a bit and get things wet. So what? It'll dry. Sheesh, you'd think that they'd be less afraid of water, considering I'M the cat!

6. My mom thinks I should put "not having to lick my butt here," but she is evil. I don't want to talk about it, but she'll get hers later.

7. Meditation. More meditation in the world - it's good for everyone!

8. More snuggling. For me in particular, and the world in general. What's not to like?

9. More time alone when we need it, again for everyone. There's nothing like a good nap in an empty room when you're stressed out. I like to make it part of my routine, if the other cats will stay away.

10. Plastic. I won't swallow it, I promise! Heh.

11. More self-confidence for everyone. People need to learn how to respect and stand up for themselves, like most of us cats. Well, some of us. I live with some not-very-good examples. But at least they do ask for what they want, which people could take a lesson from.

And finally, number 12, more Love. Of course, there's more Love out there than you know - we've all just got to tap into it, and stop blocking it out. It's kind of like purring, only it's just hanging there, existing in the air and beyond, an energy. Tap into it and you won't need much of anything else. Although it's okay to be picky sometimes, if you want to.

And that's it, for now. This list has begun to bore me. I hope you all have good holidays, and remember to take good care of and appreciate your animals through all the craziness.

Peace out,

- Maya, Not So Very Jolly, But Festive Enough

Ask Maya for the 4th week of November, 2003:

Dear Maya, the Fabulous, Wise and Beautiful,

First of all, please let me say that I love your personality!

Secondly, I saw a picture of Quan Yin and I think he's handsome and a VIC too (very Important Cat).

Question: is it true as you stated in Page 1 of your archives that what we do returns to us a thousandfold? Is that also true if someone does something very, very bad? The reason I ask is because there is someone who has fraudulently taken everything from me. They took my property that took my 32 years of working to get, my savings are gone, my possessions were smashed and destroyed and, due to the problems they created such as turning off the water, circling the house 3 times a night, breaking and entering during the day while I was gone, assaulting me with shovels, threatening to kill my cats and dogs and many more things, my job was also lost. (My boss fought for me since he knew what was happening, but to no avail - company loyalty does NOT work both ways - though it should.) My one hope is the knowledge that justice and accountability WILL occur and soon. In fact, I have often prayed to what you call All There Is and said, "No one forced the criminals to wait for some mystical, far-off time before they could commit their crime, so I shouldn't have to wait for justice! Justic is not justice unless it is swift." (You are very lucky to have your Mom to ensure a roof over your head.) I have read the answers you have given on pages 5 and 6 of your archives. Please enlighten me some more. I just want to know that I won't have to wait for another life to see them punished (and I mean big time!) and all that I had returned to me. These are truly evil people who will smash anyone who has what they want, rather than work and pay for it. I don't know if you cats value things such as property, but you would if you had to work 32 years for it and then someone committed grand fraud and took it. Please give me your viewpoint; I guess this has turned out to be a philosophical question about justice in the universe.

Much thanks to the magnificent She-Cat!

- Dee-Dee

Dear Dee-Dee,

First of all, my mother wants to say she's sorry that she didn't get back to you sooner on this. Apparently, she had some kind of "computer problems". If you asked me, this just points out how much more useful and better telepathy is than all this computer thingy-ma-jiggy stuff!

Anyway, good question. First of all, I can see that you're very upset about it, and I don't blame you. I admit that my first reaction was to get all mad about it on your behalf. How dare they! You know, we cats do squabble over possessions and territory sometimes, and we come to blows about it. Also, we are not above revenge. Many is the time I've hidden in wait for one of the others who's wronged me, to deliver a good bap on the head as they pass by me. Of course, that goes both ways. Unless you set some limits, if you both fight back, the next thing you know, it's escalating until someone really gets hurt. So, I say, know your limits, and be prepared to run like hell, if you have to!

Now, that aside, let me get to the deeper points of your questions. First of all, your perception of justice may vary with others'. I can't claim to understand the whole human "legal system" and the way you people enforce things. Nor do I understand how you divide up your possessions and figure out who works how much for whatever amount of food, shelter, etc. If the world were as it was supposed to be, you wouldn't need all that rigamarole. But anyway, I understand that you do have all that and it means something to you.

Okay, so let me point out that I AM lucky to have my human Moms to provide for me, but there are some other points to that. First of all, I did do some arranging before I was born into this current body to make sure I'd get the care I wanted. Beings plan all sorts of different things for their coming lives depending on what they want to learn from them. So, I know it upsets you, but you could think about what you can learn from this experience. Maybe over time you might learn that you didn't need all those things, or that you are strong enough to get through it, or a better person than you thought. Part of what you learn from it depends upon your attitude. It's okay to be scared and sad and mad for a while, for sure, but after a while, it's better for you (and more annoying to the aggressor) to move on and come to a place where you're happy in life again. That way, you feel better and they know they can't take that happiness from you. What is that human saying? "The best revenge is living well." Besides a good side-swipe with the old claws, I live this one, too. How frustrated is Maurice after picking on me when he sees me happily ensconced on my Mothers' pillows? Hee hee hee! So, take a deep breath, and figure out what you want for yourself, and how you're going to get it, rather than what you want for them.

Secondly, I did spend some time as a tiny little deaf kitten abandoned pre-weaning, screaming my HEAD OFF to get somebody to help me. And that might not be a bad idea for you. The best way to get help is to ask for it, and if you don't get the help from the first party you ask, ask another, or ask again. It sounds like you could use some help right now, that's for sure, so don't be afraid to ask for it! When I have another cat picking on me, sometimes I will run towards my Mom, and she will defend me. Maybe you could find somebody to help you like that - just a form of protection. Of course, I send a blessing to you, and some good energy. And I bet you could get a lot of others to send some your way, too.

Now, as for justice, that's a tricky one. There is universal justice, in terms of us reaping what we sow, and so on, as I've addressed before (and thank you for reading my other columns so with the proper attention). And yes, sometimes this is carried on over several lifetimes. But I think what you are not perceiving in the now is that those people are already reaping what they've sown, and what their parents have sown before them, in some ways. Can you imagine how unhappy and spiteful a being you would have to be to do all that to somebody for your own gain, when they were innocent? And this is coming from someone who is pretty spiteful herself! How could those people become like that if they hadn't been damaged by how they were raised, their past lives and/or their previous actions in this life? And trust me, they do not feel good inside about it. Heck, I hate to admit it, but my Momma G. often points out that when I am spiteful with the other cats it is because I am jealous and that shows up my insecurities. Feh. Grumble. I hate to say it, but it's true (I'm working on it). They may seem to be enjoying themselves, but inside, they are very sad, twisted people - and usually, that type of being either has paid for that behaviour, or will continue to do so throughout their lives, as other beings recognize their untrustworthiness. Do you know what I'm saying?

The point is, the universe doesn't often do "punishment" as many humans think of it, such as physical pain or confinement. Your souls most often punish yourselves. It is over time that the spirit learns to open itself to love and All There Is and not treat other beings badly. If these humans are treating others so poorly, they probably do not treat themselves with love and respect either. But you CAN treat yourself with love and respect. And maybe even them, too.

Well, I bet right about now I am not telling you what you wanted to hear, which is that they would suffer very soon in this lifetime and you'd get everything back as it was. I can't guarantee that. But, I can tell you that things will get better, and you can have a similar life-style back or better in time. We all go through ups and downs, and this is a low point for you - but it will come back up, and if you let yourself, you may be able to appreciate the higher points better, then.

So, all that said, of course pursue what you think is best in terms of how you people handle these things, with police or laws or whatever, but also be sure to remember that the most important thing is taking care of yourself and getting the help you need, and you should not let your anger or upset get in the way of that. Oh, and also, be safe. I might bop the other cats once in a while, but, like most cats, I am practical - I won't bop a cat ten times bigger than me, I'll just find some other territory that I like just as well, if you know what I mean. Self-preservation is very important!

Well, I think I just about said it. Let me know if you have any questions. Also, you called Quan Yin a boy cat - hee hee hee! That makes me laugh. So an extra "gold star" for you and an extra blessing. I will see what I can do on your behalf with the Cat Council and the Powers That Be. In the meantime, I hope things get better for you, and take care of yourself. If you focus your energy on that rather than hoping something bad will happen to them, you'll feel better a lot faster (and then you can imagine them getting hit by lightning, or something, now and then, too & try it - that one can be fun!).

A grooming lick for you and a Scathing Look at them,

- Ms. Maya, Herself The Cat

Ask Maya for the 2nd and 3rd weeks of November, 2003:

Greetings Maya,

My question is about the Manatees. We know that the Whales and Dolphins help to hold the light on mother earth. Can you tell us about the Manatees such as where they come from ie Whales are from Sirius and how the Manatees help mother earth? I am looking forward to your reply.

In Kinship,

- Linda

Dear Linda,

Happy day, today! I am celebrating my Mom M coming home from being away. There's nothing like a good snuggle with the ones you love when you've missed them. Plus, I just like watching her to see what she does next. I think my Mom G feels the same way.

Now then, interesting questions. I can't say as I've met any manatees physically, but it is true that they are a strong presence in the spiritual realm, in their own way.

I'm not an expert on them, but manatees are very interesting. They are very peaceful, not just in their over-souls, but in their physical beings, which I am not! (cat wink) They also do a lot of floating, and a lot of thinking. Actually, with manatees, their BEING in the physical realm and their journeying in the spiritual realm are almost one and the same. There is almost no distinction in time, as you call it, or the planes for them.

This is similar, as you've noted, to whales in some ways. It is also similar to elephants. However, manatees are even more connected to the land than whales are, and more peaceful than elephants. Manatees never hurt another animal, unless it's by strange accident. They do eat plants, but they sing to the plants first (this may not be audible to humans), and thank them. In a way, they are also one with the plants, because they are very similar in their rhythms, perceptions and are rather symbiotic.

Manatees are also recorders of the Earth, like elephants, dolphins and whales, but they are much less vocal. They are into being without judgement, you know. They are partially here to teach humans a valuable lesson. Manatees are completely peaceful, and live very close to human habitats. They do not seem to serve any physical "purpose" for humans (such as food, pets or workers), and yet they are important. Humans kill them by accident and through ignorance. Sometimes they kill the manatees with their boats without even knowing it. Manatees do not judge this. But there is a message for humans to watch where they are going, what they are doing and how it effects they environment around them. Also, humans should take the time to slow down and learn to commune with manatees and appreciate them for what they are, rather than what they might be able to do for humans. If humans did that, they might be surprised at just how much manatees CAN do for them, on a spiritual and energetic level.

I don't know about Sirius, but I do know that manatees do have a strong connection to and an origin coming from the outside Universe. There are spiritual intelligences everywhere, not just on Earth. Where do people think they go when they die? Their spirits go somewhere, that's for sure. You can relate the concept of "space" to the actual physical plane outside of the Earth, but it is also sort of like a different dimension or vibration. The concept of "Heaven" is similar. Life goes on beyond one type of vibration or place, or even time. It's like that saying you humans have, "we are all spiritual beings having a physical experience." The thing with manatees is, they are much more connected to their outer origins and spiritual being. That's why they seem so slow and peaceful - they're barely here on the physical plane in the first place! Plus, they like to take their time to sing and observe. Think about it: if you put ALL your attention into everything you do, you wouldn't have any trouble with spending most of your life just swimming slowly, eating, sleeping and caring for your loved ones. This is a lesson, too: there are wonders and contentment even in the simplest and most mundane of life's activities. Manatees float in the water like a lot of us should float through life more often, if you get my meaning.

So, I guess that answers your question about them coming from elsewhere - yes, they do, although their physical shapes are Earth-constructed. As for them nurturing Mother Earth, manatees do this very much in their just Being the Way They Are. They consume but also fertilize, live lightly on the Earth and send benevolence and warm energies (this is sort of what I mean by their singing) wherever they go. It is a less deep sound/vibration than the whales put out, but it is important, just the same. It is the vibration and sound of contentment, in many ways, in just being one with the land, sky and water. I hope that makes sense. They also work for better understanding from humans, which we all need, if we want to keep this planet going and fulfill our purpose!

So, that's my answer, and it's a mystical one. I enjoy those, just like I enjoy the practical advice. I am not like a manatee, myself, in who I am today, but we can all be like them if we meditate and journey to their vibration, then let ourselves become like them for a little while. You should try it! It's very relaxing, and it makes you better appreciate the world.

Anyway, I hope that helps. Blessings to you and all your animal companions,

- Maya The Cat, Mystical As She Wants To Be, And Don't You Forget It

Ask Maya for the 1st week of November, 2003:

Dear Maya,

Do cats really like those videos that are footage of squirrels and birdfeeders run on a loop? They're being marketed for the "working cat mom" or something, to be played for the cats when the humans are out. I would think that cats of all creatures could find plenty of ways to keep themselves occupied without something so silly, but people are swearing that their cats love them...what do you think of them? Or the idea of them if you've never seen one. Do you think other cats might? We have a cat who always seems to be of very simple mind (he's adorable, but he just doesn't seem very bright)...he also is often fascinated with the television. I suppose he might be entertained by one, but I think a TV left on Animal Planet would be just as good (and probably much more interesting...but what do I know about being a cat?).

Love,

- Piper

Dear Piper,

Good question. I'd not really heard of those things, although I've seen animals on television. The truth is, I see a little differently from most cats. I am very into lights and shadows, combined with movements. I often find the shadow of things more attractive and interesting than the actual thing itself! So, the t.v. does not really do it for me. I think I get why my moms like to watch it (it seems it's a way people have of telling stories to each other long-distance), but I prefer to sit on the end table and watch THEM while they do it.

Speaking of not-very-bright cats who are interested in the television, that reminds me of Maurice. Maurice likes to watch television with the moms. He didn't used to so much, but then he went on this campaign of figuring out why it was so interesting to them (and why they weren't paying attention to HIM all the time). He knew they liked to look at it for long periods, but he didn't understand what they were seeing. Then, he started to "listen in" on what they were thinking and getting from the television, and he began to understand the stories or emotions they get from it, sometimes. Since then, he spends a lot more time with them on the couch, tuning in or out whatever's happening on the t.v. as he wants. Actually, that doesn't sound especially dumb, I know, although I do find it a bit pointless. But, to each his or her own.

Anyway, Maurice really seems to like it now, especially the nature parts. He will react when he hears or sees animals on the t.v. (hel-lo! they're not REAL!), so I guess if he can do it, other cats can, too. Quan Yin - the Other One - has the reaction of running from the t.v., generally, and being overwhelmed. She's always wondering what they're DOING watching that THING. Not the brightest reaction. But then, it seems too "loud" for her, which is not a problem I have, being deaf. One would think she would be able to be a little more focussed. Still, it is amusing seeing her scurry through the room, shooting looks of terror at the big, scary television monster. Hee!

So, my point is, I suppose a number of cats (especially not-too-bright ones) would be infinitely amused and entertained by such a thing. Others wouldn't. I, myself, prefer shiny light-type things, like reflections and the Red Dot that comes from the thing Mom calls the "laser pointer". Now, THAT is cool and fascinating. But, you never know until you try it for your cats. Personally, I think it's more fun and stimulating to get interested in something that actually makes you RUN or MOVE or something. But, see what your cat likes. And what's a little investment if it turns out to be something he really enjoys? Just like humans, you can't always know what they'll like, until they try it.

Hope this helps and cat blessings to you and your family,

- Ms. Maya, Knowledgeable Lady Most High

Ask Maya for the 5th week of October, 2003:

Hello,

I'd like to ask Maya if Sweet Spirit, my corgi rescue, is happy here in her new home and if there's anything she needs. She's in school now, and although she's very friendly and relaxed at home, school seems to stress her. Not sure if I'm expecting too much from her too soon. I know there's a few questions contained herein, but any light you can share will be appreciated.

Thanks so much,

- Linda & Sweet Spirit

Dear Linda and Sweet Spirit,

Oh, FINALLY my mother lets me answer a question! She was on vacation, and then "catching up on things," you know. I did not really complain that she was not giving me questions until a couple days ago. I have been very patient, but enough is enough!

Anyway, my Mom is the one with the animal communication business, but I will give it a go. I get that your dog is nervous around the new people and other dogs. She needs a lot of reassurance from you. I don't really get what school is about - and heaven knows I'd never let myself be subjected to such a thing! - but I do know that interacting with lots of strangers away from your home turf can be unnerving. (Personally, I like to travel, and don't mind other people too much if they don't bother me and one of my Moms is around. Other cats and dogs, however, should leave me alone!)

I also get that Sweet Spirit is trying to please you. School may feel like a test for her. I never got the way most dogs want to please people all the time, but sometimes they do. Also, if they haven't always had the best input from people - as I gather your corgi friend hasn't - they can be sensitive and worried that they are being good enough and thus safe and not abandoned. Also, she probably wants to be around and focus on you all the time.

I'd say, take it easy on school, make sure you shower her with lots of praise and affection afterwards, and let her know it's alright and she's safe, even if she makes mistakes. Also, be sure to let her know that you will protect her from other dogs, if they get nasty.

I'm sure my Momma G would be willing to help if you want to know anything more specific. Oh, and now she wants to tell you about some flower essences &

[Note from GK: the Bach flower essence Larch might help boost Sweet Spirit's confidence, and Aspen might help her to overcome any unknown fears.]

So that's it. Good luck with Sweet Spirit and good on you for taking her in. Rescuing an animal is always the Right Thing To Do. A blessing and sage kitty nod,

- Maya The Cat, Elucidator Extraordinaire

Ask Maya for the 2nd, 3rd and 4th weeks of October, 2003:

Dear friends,

Mom is taking a little break from my column for the next couple weeks because she will be away the third week of October. Feh! I mean, I understand she needs time to do things, and I applaud her taking care of herself (I try to teach her that lesson all the time), but I wish she and my other Mom weren't leaving us here to go FERAL and fight with each other. Sheesh. Plus, I will miss answering questions! But, believe you me, when she gets back, I will get her back on track typing up my columns again.

In the meanwhile, besides blowing raspberries to my Momma G (heh), feel free to look at the archives of my other messages. I know I had a lot of good things to say, and you never know what you might have missed.

Anyway, take care. Wish me luck being alone with THOSE TWO. Feh. And think up some questions. I get bored around here.

Later, everyone,

- Maya The Beauty, A Bit Put-Off

Ask Maya for the 5th week of September/1st week of October, 2003:

Dear Maya,

How do you feel about kisses! I mean human kisses. My girl Connie is OK as long as they are on the top of her head, where as my boy Alistair just hates to be kissed. Being that kissing is a major human form of showing affection we tend to assume it transends all species... Does our form of kissing mean anything to cat.....?

Thanks,

- Leslie-Ann,
Alistair & Connie (cats,)
Coby & Belle (birds,)
Mayo (fish,)
Billy, Merlin & Mustard (guardian angels)

Dear Leslie-Ann, I have no trouble with kisses. I mean, cats don't have lips like you humans do - ours are different - so we don't exactly kiss in that way. But I don't mind one now and then. They're not my favourite things in the world, but I know my moms mean well when they give them to me.

Of course, it's all a matter of individual preference. Maurice doesn't like human faces in his face, as some cats don't, as they can be big and scary for him (hah!). Other animals find it annoying, or threatening. You might want to be careful or that. I wouldn't want just anyone doing it to me, but I don't mind if my moms do it on occasion. Actually, I like to smell their breath, so that's a good opportunity for me to do so. I'd prefer if they just blow on me a bit, so I can smell their breath, but then they sometimes sneak a kiss in, too! Heh.

Personally, I get that it is a sign of affection, and I think it is a beautiful and fascinating thing when my moms kiss each other. Sometimes they get mad because I am STARING at them, they say - heh! I try to tell them I am just OBSERVING, you know, to understand humans better, plus I just like to be around the Love Vibrations as they go around, you know what I'm saying? But it seems they want privacy then. Go figure.

Anyway, to answer your last question, I don't think most cats understand kissing, at first, 'cause it's foreign to us. But some of us get the idea, eventually. And, even if it's a little weird to us, we can appreciate the affection behind it, sometimes. It all depends on the individual cat and person, you know.

Well, I hope this helps. I send you a gust of cat breath! Ha!

- Maya The Cat, Who Is Very Beautiful, Don't You Know

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